Responding to Abusive Word Salad (the master game player strategy) [351]
Flying Free
Natalie Hoffman
5 • 1K Ratings
🗓️ 28 October 2025
⏱️ 27 minutes
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Summary
Has your inbox turned into a dumpster fire of accusatory texts from your abuser?
In this episode, I hand you a step-by-step strategy to shut down the inner emotional chaos without getting dragged into the mud pit with him. It's not just about survival. It's about winning (for YOU!)
What We Cover in This Episode:
- What to do when your abuser won’t stop texting lies, and the courts won’t let you block him
- How to stop reacting and start playing offense with your own sanity-protecting strategy
- Why your emotional reaction is his favorite snack (and how to starve that monster)
- The magic of radical acceptance. No, he’s not going to wake up one day and be Prince Charming
- Why sarcasm is satisfying but not strategic (sorry, my fellow sass queens)
- A game-plan that builds a rock-solid paper trail, perfect for court receipts and your peace of mind
- How to rewire your nervous system before you even read his garbage texts
Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here
Related Resources:
- Check out Aimee Says for help wading through the word salad your abuser is throwing at you.
- Listen to some other Flying Free episodes, including “Winning Child Custody & Divorce Battles” and “How to Respond to Emotional Abuse Tactics.”
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying FreeNow.com, and you're listening to the Flying Free |
| 0:07.8 | podcast, a support resource for women of faith looking for hope and healing from hidden |
| 0:14.2 | emotional and spiritual abuse. Welcome to episode 351 of the Flying Free Podcast. |
| 0:24.3 | I want to share something today that one of the members of the kaleidoscope has been dealing with |
| 0:29.7 | because I actually think a lot of women have to deal with this and sometimes it's hard to know what to do. |
| 0:35.3 | So here's the post and by the way, I change things in posts that I read to the public so that nobody has a clue who it is. |
| 0:42.8 | So it could be anyone. |
| 0:44.0 | So here's what she wrote. |
| 0:45.9 | My ex has been texting accusatory things and stating lies about me. |
| 0:51.2 | It is so bad. |
| 0:52.5 | I don't know how to stop it. |
| 0:53.6 | I'm scared and helpless because I can |
| 0:56.3 | never defend myself. Now, when this post came in, my heart immediately went out to her because I could |
| 1:02.9 | relate. Not because my exes do this to me because they actually don't, but because there's |
| 1:08.9 | another person in my life who has been doing this to me over the |
| 1:12.2 | past year. And because this is not someone that I share custody with, I don't actually have to |
| 1:18.3 | engage with this person if I don't want to. And indeed, I finally did have to block this person |
| 1:24.7 | because it was so relentless. And nothing I offered worked to |
| 1:30.4 | sue the situation. In fact, the more I tried to help, the more it seemed to twist out of control. |
| 1:37.5 | My words ended up being used against me. It would become this tangled mess. There was just, |
| 1:42.3 | there was just no way after trying for so many |
| 1:47.0 | months to have a rational, respectful conversation. So I had to bow out. However, when you are |
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