What happens when you want to do things differently than how you were raised?

And yet the people who raised you are intimately involved in your life and in the raising of

your children.

We have done good work from the beginning, setting boundaries with the grandparents, saying

what's important to us, picking our battles, planting our flag where we felt we needed

to and letting other things slide when we could.

But now it's much more about a narrative, it's much more ideological, it's much more

about like an overall approach to how we raise kids and the stories we tell about them.

And that feels a lot trickier to me to figure out how to set the boundaries or how to have

those conversations.

Hi, so nice to meet you, so nice to be talking today.

Why don't we begin just tell me a little bit about you and what's on your mind?

Hi, so thank you for doing this.

I have two young kids.

One is almost four, one is ten months.

They're both girls for now as far as we know.

And the thing that is on my mind is that I am very fortunate, my partner and I are very

fortunate that we have the proverbial village that everyone says they want, which is family,

which is mostly my partner's family extended family.

We live in a neighborhood very close to them.

And we're also really committed to this idea of reparenting.

And what I'm finding at least, I won't speak for him, but what I'm finding is that if

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