Release yourself from the male gaze: How to have more orgasms!
Happy Place
Fearne Cotton
4.6 • 15.2K Ratings
🗓️ 25 July 2025
⏱️ 58 minutes
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Summary
It’s National Orgasm Day on July 31st, so Fearne is listening back to Happy Place conversations about female sexuality, fantasy, and – obviously – orgasms, so that we can reclaim our bodies and desires as our own...
In this episode –
- Crystal Hefner describes what it was like living as a sexualised woman at the Playboy House
-Emily Ratajkowski unpacks how we can remove our sexuality from the male gaze
-Dita Von Teese gives her take on nudity and building confidence in your body
-Gillian Anderson chats about what she learnt from collecting essays on women’s fantasies
-Miranda July explains why she included a particularly taboo fantasy in her novel All Fours
-Florence Bark talks through how to get to know your own anatomy better, so you can properly lean into all that pleasure your body is capable of
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to Happy Place with me Fern Cotton. July the 31st, did you know, is National |
| 0:09.7 | Orgasm Day. So today we're going to listen back to some of the conversations we've had on the show |
| 0:15.2 | about female sexuality, fantasy and obviously orgasms. What's really cool about our clitoris is that we have 10,000 nerve endings. |
| 0:26.6 | I think that women talking to each other about sex is the only way that we can protect ourselves and also have better sex. |
| 0:33.6 | So you're like, okay, they all have implants and they're all, you have sex appeal and they're dressing sexy. |
| 0:39.6 | You're like, okay, that's what you got to do to be powerful. |
| 0:42.7 | What makes one person feel empowered may make another person feel degraded. |
| 0:46.9 | And I think the ultimate feminism is respecting each other's choices, even if it's not for you. |
| 0:52.3 | If you actually take a moment and really do some deep breathing during masturbation, |
| 0:57.3 | you'll be so surprised at the change in the pleasure capacity. |
| 1:02.0 | To know two people have been that intimate and maybe I never will. |
| 1:06.7 | There's a lot of women who talk about wanting their partner to see them for exactly who they are for the body that they have. |
| 1:14.0 | Like here we are on earth. It seems worthwhile to be so vulnerable. |
| 1:21.5 | Right. So we're going to unapologetically look at female sexuality today |
| 1:25.6 | and try to get stuck into some of the conversations around why |
| 1:28.9 | we might have such a complicated relationship with our own desires and bodies when really we all |
| 1:36.3 | deserve the space to express ourselves and feel pleasure completely uninhibited. |
| 1:41.4 | Now, if like me, you're in your mid-40s, you more than likely grew up in a time where, |
| 1:46.9 | it's bloody complicated time. On one hand, you had sort of like pop stars who were really overly |
| 1:51.8 | sexualised. So there was a lot of imagery of young people wearing very little, writhing around. |
| 1:58.4 | There was a lot of lads mags with women with their tits out. But equally, we were sort of shamed at the same time for whether it was just our bodies being a body and having a body that looked a certain way or whether it was expressing ourselves sexually. I think the sort of feminist chat came into this as well, that it was seen anti-feminist to be overtly sexy and sexual. And I think, thank God, times have changed |
| 2:23.5 | massively from maybe 10, 20 years ago. And now I think we're really embracing that feminism |
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