This type of parenting is easy because it puts great demands on parents, but not great demands to

discipline, which is where parents often get stressed, is they try to control the child and they

can't, and that feels like a very wavy demand. If you go at it the way we're proposing,

the demand is that you regulate yourself, that you do your own work and take care of your own

business. That's hard. And then, that you be alert and connected and observing of your child

all the time, not just when they catch your attention because something bad's happening.

Like, notice them when they're doing well and go to the trouble to articulate it back to them.

So it does take a lot of energy and a lot of attention. But what I

posit is that we notice how much attention and energy we put in fighting. And if we just

repurpose that energy and recycle it for other moments, it's not really more. It's just at

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