Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last. I'm Tim Harford, host of the Cautionary Tales

podcast and I'm exploring that very question. Join me for my new miniseries on the art of fairness. From New York to Tahiti will examine

villains undone by their villainy, monstrous self-devouring egos and accounts of the extraordinary

power of decency.

Listen on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts.

I am Yama. I had a baby daddy relationship I spent time in a relationship with a married man I had to learn the skills and tools required to make my relationships healthy,

for filling and loving.

Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio

in partnership with I-Heart Radio. It's important for us to understand how a relationship ends so that we learn the lessons,

that we identify the mistakes, so that we don't carry them forward.

You know, sometimes when a relationship ends, people go into a deep sense of mourning that infects every relationship

thereafter. Sometimes they mourn forever and just never even

attempt to revive or be involved in another relationship.

How did the relationship die?

Was it a slow death?

Was it sudden and unexpected? Was there somebody who did something? Were the people

in the relationships, the culprit, one or both of them? And what were the life-saving attempts?

If we can do it for people and they're living,

we can surely do it for a relationship.

And it's important that we understand the role we play in the way our relationship

ends and what we can do differently the next time.

So I've got some callers today, brave callers.

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