I amma I had a baby daddy relationship I spent time in a relationship with a married man I had to learn the skills and tools required to make my relationships healthy, fulfilling, and loving.

Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. Welcome to the Our Spot. The place we come to talk about relationships, all kinds of relationships. I am your

facilitator, your host, your guide through this conversation I am Yamla. So, so grateful to be here with you today as we delve into a

very important conversation, a very important

important relationship and that is the relationship you are having with yourself

the relationship you are having with you. Is it an intimate relationship? Is it a loving relationship? Is it a friendship? Is it a friend of me ship?

You know, so very often in our lives we're so busy trying to heal or establish or create relationships outside of ourselves that we totally ignore the relationship we're having with

ourselves, how we see ourselves, how we hold ourselves, how we think about ourselves, what we believe about ourselves, how we

encourage or don't encourage, how we affirm or don't affirm, how we judge, criticize, tear ourselves down.

And the challenge here is that it's happening

from the inside out.

Doesn't happen from the outside.

The outside stuff just adds to what we're already doing.

But it happens from the inside out.

And then what happens as a result of that is that we attract people,

circumstances, experiences, situations that validate what it is we're doing to ourselves and then we get about the business of blaming the outside

and never look within. Begin within. Begin within because that's where it all starts.

Here's my first call.

Greetings beloved and welcome to the R spot. We today are looking at the relationship we are

having with ourselves. So tell me who are you and how's your relationship?

Hi, thank you for taking my call.

My name is Jade.

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