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Hey there. Welcome back to Jillian on Love. Today you are going to listen and watch me speak to a woman who has a difficult relationship history. She has dated men who are in no way emotionally capable of being a good partner.

They just, for different reasons, which you will find out, they don't have the capacity.

And some of them have actually been worse than that. They've been highly manipulative.

But she keeps going back to this particular archetype of a man and she really wants to

understand why and how to break it. So we talk about this. We talk about what draws her to this kind

of person. We talk about the red flags that she ignores. And we talk about this. We talk about what draws her to this kind of person. We talk about the red flags that she

ignores. And we talk about her relationship with her dad. I think this is going to help a lot of you.

So without further ado, here we go. Hi there. Welcome. Hi. Thanks so much. How can I help um I'm writing in because I choose people who need help

so the last relationship I had he was borderline personality disorder and he told me he had done

all this work and all this therapy and then three months in he turned completely controlling

insecure and jealous.

And I want to know what I can look for in the beginning to avoid this mistake again.

So how long were you dating him for? Okay. So we had previously dated in 2017, very briefly.

And we stopped seeing each other.

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