Reconnecting After A Big Fight (The Do's And Don'ts) Episode 88
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 14 July 2020
⏱️ 40 minutes
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Summary
So you have had a fight in your relationship, now what…? Right after you might feel angry or sad, certainty disconnected, or even that you do not want to be around them. This is a tough place to be in for your relationship; HOWEVER this is not the part you need to be worried about initially. It's about how long are you going to be in this period of being disconnected! This episode is all about how to reconnect after you have had a fight or disagreement.
Today's topic came from a question on a DM from Isha on saying: "Can you include in your podcast about how to talk after a fight? How to listen and accept each other's perspectives regarding a situation that has led to a fight?" Thank you for the question Isha as this is a topic we have gotten many questions about too.
Today from this episode you'll takeaway:
- The 3 "Don'ts" for after a big fight
- For example the action that has you sweep things under the rug
- Then the 3 things to "Do" after a fight to reconnect together.
- For example how to get to the real root cause (and not what you "think" the argument is really about)
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello, couples, and welcome back to the Empowered Couples podcast where you get modern, |
| 0:05.3 | non-boring relationship advice so you can communicate like pros, fight smarter, resolve conflicts faster, |
| 0:11.9 | and ultimately, you know, stay on the same team no matter what challenge comes up. |
| 0:16.9 | I am one of your hosts, Aaron Freeman. |
| 0:18.5 | And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you can just remember us as the Freemans. And on today's show, we are talking about reconnecting after a big fight, the do's, and maybe even more importantly, the don'ts. So Jocelyn, where does this topic come from today? It actually came from two places. One from our life, which we'll share about in just a minute, but also from the DMs. |
| 0:39.3 | If you're new to listening to our podcast, our topics come from you. We get DMs on Facebook, |
| 0:45.0 | on Instagram, and we answer your question. So this actually came from, I hope I'm not mispronouncing |
| 0:50.3 | it. I can only see the IG handle, but Isha, she asked in the DMs, can you include in your |
| 0:56.8 | podcast about how to talk after a fight, how to listen and accept each other's perspectives regarding |
| 1:03.6 | a situation that has led to a fight? |
| 1:06.0 | And I love this question because it's very intentional, like how do we reconnect after a fight? And it was |
| 1:12.6 | perfect timing because we had one of our biggest disagreements, to be honest with you all, |
| 1:18.6 | last week, you know, about 10 days ago. We shared about it on our web show as well, but we'll talk a lot more about it today. |
| 1:24.6 | And so it was perfect timing that we got this question, right, Aaron? Yes, thank you for asking this. And as we jump in, I want to start with another review as we've had such great reviews. And by the way, if you review a episode or the show, we'll do a drawing at the end of the month. So that one's coming up in two weeks. but one I wanted to read came from T Millie |
| 1:44.8 | yes and I thought this was so great it said breakthrough podcast as the title this new podcast format |
| 1:51.3 | so obviously this person has been listening for a little while they love the new format where we |
| 1:56.4 | take topics from the community and it's by far their favorite I get so calm when listening to these short quality messages from the community and it's by far their favorite. I get so calm when listening to these |
| 2:03.0 | short quality messages from J&A. Love how we're now J&A. And I look forward to adding this to our |
| 2:09.5 | date nights. So that's really fun. Having, I think, relationship growth be a part of a date night |
| 2:15.5 | is a huge thing for relationships and then lastly really |
| 2:19.4 | like these specific takeaways asking for what you do want no blindsiding don't wait a long time to |
| 2:26.4 | share the goal is to ask for permission or is this a good time in order to prevent them from getting |
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