Differences in Personalities? How To Have Both of Your Needs Met Episode 87
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 7 July 2020
⏱️ 40 minutes
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Summary
All of a sudden the personality differences that attracted you to your partner earlier in the relationship, become the things that frustrate you and cause tension! How can this be? Once you find yourself in this place it can feel like your own needs are not getting met. For example maybe you are naturally more spontaneous and playful than your partner who 'makes decisions slower' and likes to structure and plan things out.
Today's topic came from Heather's question on Instagram that said: "My partner and I realized a key difference in the way we both operate. I have a need for spontaneity and often throw ideas out and expect him to roll with it. He has a need, however, to think things through and plan things out well in advance. How can we both be sensitive to each other's needs while still feeling our own needs are met?"
Form today's episode you'll takeaway:
- Why this dynamic of tension happens in your relationship
- How you can bring awareness to your differences first to leverage them as a team rather than have them be things you try to change in your partner
- Two tips you can implement right now to be sure both of your needs get met and you both feel balanced in your decision making together as a true team.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello, couples, and welcome to the Empowered Couples podcast where you get non-boring, |
| 0:05.2 | modern relationship advice for you to communicate like pros, fight smarter, resolve conflicts faster, |
| 0:10.9 | and ultimately be a team no matter the challenge that you face. |
| 0:15.1 | I am one of your hosts, Aaron Freeman. |
| 0:16.8 | And I'm Jocelyn Freeman. |
| 0:18.0 | And where do we get these topics that we're going to talk about? |
| 0:20.4 | Well, we get them from you. The listeners, we actually now have you write in, meaning Instagram DM or Facebook message, or literally any way you can get the message to us for what you're either going through, what you want to know more about, where you want to grow. And that is the same for this episode, right? |
| 0:38.0 | So what are we talking about today? |
| 0:39.0 | Well, we put up three options because we received a lot of DMs from you all. |
| 0:42.9 | So the three options were how to rebuild trust, how to resolve conflicts faster. |
| 0:48.4 | And then this third one, which was the winner, which is if you have differences in your |
| 0:53.3 | personalities, how to have both your needs met. |
| 0:56.5 | Now if you're like, oh man, my topic wasn't the winner, don't worry, we're going to cover |
| 1:01.2 | the other two in the upcoming weeks, but this actually came from a DM on IG from Heather, |
| 1:06.7 | and she said, I'll just read her message. My partner and I realized a key difference in the way we both operate. |
| 1:13.4 | I have a need for spontaneity and often throw ideas out and expect him to roll with it. |
| 1:18.2 | He has a need, however, to think things through and plan things out well in advance. |
| 1:24.1 | How can we both be sensitive to each other's needs while still feeling our own needs |
| 1:29.9 | are met? What a good question, right? |
| 1:32.0 | I resonate with that, Heather, yeah. |
| 1:33.3 | Well, before we even get into some of the advice we'd give them, I think let's give |
| 1:37.6 | the audience a little sneak peek a little more into our relationship and talk about, do you |
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