Rebuilding Trust After Broken Promises (whether big or small) Episode 89
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 21 July 2020
⏱️ 48 minutes
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Summary
Trust is the feeling of: "you have my back". When trust is high in any relationship you can feel that you can fly, fail, and yet still be accepted and loved by your partner. This is so foundational for a healthy, happy relationship that wants to be able to grow. When trust has been broken, whether from a big or small event, it harbors doubt, resentment, and suspicion in the relationship.
Today's topic came from several DM's and IG poll votes, plus a financial trust question from Teresa: "After repeat offenses running the gamut of petty to severe in nature on occasion; how do you rebuild trust in a real way? I am between being codependent in needing to trust deeply and frustrated because I feel like I never can 100% trust because of the continued offenses and boundary crossing."
One other question was: "It was about a promise of not doing something, then doing it and lying about it to my face….multiple times. So broken promises/outright lies/secrets. How to make amends and be consistent with everything?" Thank you everyone for the questions and even Alicia from the book club, being honest about wanting to rebuild trust.
Today from this episode you'll takeaway:
- What trust really means within your relationship
- The major effects a lack of trust can have
- Why you or your partner would break a promise or even lie
- 4 ways to rebuild trust in your partner and the relationship.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empower Couples podcast where here you get non-boring modern relationship |
| 0:05.9 | advice so that you can communicate like pros, you can fight smarter, resolve conflicts faster, |
| 0:11.8 | and really stay on the same team no matter what challenges you face. And I am one of your hosts, |
| 0:17.7 | Aaron Freeman. And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you can just remember us as the Freeman's. And on this episode, we are talking about rebuilding trust after broken promises |
| 0:28.1 | and Jocelyn, where does this come from? As always, it comes from all of you. So we received |
| 0:33.3 | several DMs on this topic and then we did a vote and so 91% of you said yes please cover |
| 0:38.7 | this. So a lot of people. And all right, it came from DMs. So for example, Teresa asked about |
| 0:45.4 | specifically financial trust. So how can I trust my partner with money? And then we received some |
| 0:51.2 | other DMs. We'll keep names private. But even Alicia posted in the Facebook |
| 0:54.5 | group. She was okay with us giving her a shout out. In the Facebook community, she was asking about |
| 0:59.3 | how to rebuild trust. And specifically, we received a great DM on Instagram. Shout out to people |
| 1:04.9 | who connect with us on Instagram and said, so I would like to know how we can rebuild trust. We had a broken promise of not doing |
| 1:13.8 | something, then doing it, then lying to my face about it multiple times. So broken promises, |
| 1:19.7 | outright lies and secrets, how to make amends and to be consistent with everything. And again, |
| 1:26.2 | you all voted to cover trust, big or small. We're |
| 1:29.3 | going to talk today whether it was kind of big things that were broken or small things, right? |
| 1:34.2 | Yeah, this is such a great topic. Sometimes it can be blatant and sometimes it can be at the cause |
| 1:39.1 | of other things that are more subtle. Yes. So I'm really excited to jump into this episode. |
| 1:42.8 | It's so important. And before we do that, I want to read another podcast review that we got. |
| 1:47.8 | So all of you, thank you for writing these really great reviews. |
| 1:51.6 | And it was hard for me to decide on these two because they were both so good. |
| 1:55.8 | So I'm going to go with this run from Aousie that said so many episodes to help your |
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