All right ladies and gentlemen to kick off a romance month. We're doing a

challenge here at Team Johnson. I thought who better to have on than two people

who've been married for over 25 years almost 26 years, that right? 26 years.

Tony and Alisa are here. These are two people who have two children and they've

had a successful podcast devoted to helping couples restore their connection to

have better relationships. They've been doing that for over 12 years. They've helped

hundreds of thousands of people understand what it takes because it is a skill

improving your relationship whether you're married or not is in fact a skill and

I'm really delighted to have them here today. So Tony and Alisa thank you so much

for being here. Thank you. I'm excited. I am too. You know I know we have a lot in

common where both Californians both been married for a long time. Both have

older son, younger daughter and both really devoted to helping people

understand that this isn't something you get a manual for. This isn't something

that everyone was even necessarily role-modeled. Right. But there's so much

possibility there. It's like a skill. It's like anything else. You can improve it.

The other reason why I wanted to have you on and it was really important to have

experts in this area is because I've done a few episodes recently. I did one on

emotional intimacy and I did one on sexual intimacy and the feedback I got the

constructive criticism I got on the emotional intimacy episode was that while

they kind of understood what it looked like they didn't understand like how do

we do it? I don't know how and so I'd love to talk about that and I thought one

of the best places we could start if you're okay with it is why when we say

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