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Hey I'm John Fuller along with Danny Werta, and Danny dads have a tendency, I think, generally,

to back off when mom is coming on super strong that may be perceived his weakness, but maybe he's

just being a gentleman. This is

especially true when mom is dealing with a son or expressing something about a

son. We as dads might get jealous of that relationship and so we just kind of do the gentlemanly thing and we retreat we got kind of go dark and silent

Not always a good idea though is it? No, it's really avoiding talking about something that's

very important. Those dynamics of relationship tell us a lot of information and as

a dad if we're seeing that there's a strong response from a mom and maybe some

anxieties that are coming out through that, maybe have a conversation off to the side.

Hey, I felt this.

I felt a bit jealous of the relationship

that you're starting to develop between our son and you

and I know that's my issue, but here's what I'm thinking that's what I'm feeling

That is powerful because it creates intimacy between a husband and wife and in the moment if a mom is coming on strong

Maybe what you can do is engage in a way that's helpful to the moment because many times a son could potentially go the other way as well and shut down towards a strong mom.

And you can be helpful by helping each person understand what they're saying and loving on

them, but then communicating with each one whenever it's appropriate

to help them in that interaction.

Dad's you are essential in the home and essential in communication and there are plenty of moms with strong

personalities but a lot of that's because they have passion and love for their

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