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I think most of us as moms and dads have coached our kids something like this we tell

them what to say all right now honey say please or make sure you say thank

you or look him in the eyes say nice to to meet you, shake his hand. You know teaching our kids

manners is important, but as they get older we've got to allow our kids especially

our sons to speak up for themselves.

Otherwise, it's going to be really, really hard in life.

I'm John Fuller, along with Danny Huerta,

and Dr. Meg Meeker spoke from personal experience

about letting go a little bit and backing off when the urge strikes to turn into that helicopter mom.

Here she is talking about that with Focus President Jim Daly and me.

These kids come in, you're a pediatrician.

They sit on your table, you talk to them for a little bit,

mom may be in the room, maybe not in the room.

You're discerning, we got an attachment problem.

How do you go about that advice to say, mom, as your doctor, may I say? And how do you fill in that blank?

Well, I do that really fairly often because a helicopter mom will do this.

She'll have a child in the room, maybe a child who's 13,

and I'll ask the child a question, and I look at the child and mom answers everything and I deliberately look at the child and not her and if mom keeps answering I gently turn to her and say ma'am I need you to stay quiet because I need to

hear from your son or daughter. Ouch that's okay she'll get mad and then

gently over time I say you know it's really important for him

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