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slash parenting podcast. I think a lot of us as moms and dads think we've got to do a lot of things for our kids

But in the end that might actually be detrimental it can hurt them and kind of hamper their ability to move forward in life.

There are some things they just have to figure out for themselves.

I'm John Fuller along with Danny Werta and Danny ultimately, we can't take tests for our kids or do job interviews.

I think there probably are parents that try to do both of those for their kids.

That's not a good plan for success.

There's just no way possible for us to own their actions and

choices. We have to let go and kind of let them have that ownership, right?

Yeah, a lot of our anxiety gets in the way sometimes as parents, right?

We just want them to do well in life, and that's the intention behind that, right?

Good heart, but not helpful.

Kids definitely need to learn from their mistakes, their failures, and sometimes that's

very uncomfortable for us as parents.

And the more we can teach them to own their successes, their failures, and what it takes to live, the better it's going to be for them.

I think early on I can remember we have six kids and so when the first couple were

were younger I would often instruct them not to do certain things.

It wasn't safe to do this or that.

By the time my sixth rolled around, honest, one time he was on top of the roof.

Now we don't have a super tall roof, but he on top of the roof he's like I'm going to jump

and it's like have added I don't care I mean I might have to go to the emergency room but that's

fine I just decided he's got to own this now I know I know I'm going to hear from people,

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