Welcome to our slash, Am I the bad guy? Where OP absolutely hates his daughter? Am I the bad guy

for counting down the days until my daughter turns 18 so I can stop being legally responsible for her?

I married my wife about two years ago and she has a daughter from a previous relationship.

Early on in our relationship, my wife made it clear that her daughter has a father and she's not

looking for another father for her. My wife set the ground rules that I would be an adult figure

but not a parental one. I'll have no say in how she's brought up and I can't punish her in any way.

Considering she was 14 when her mom and I met and 15 when we married, I agreed to her rules.

My thinking was that she's already too old for me to make any difference in her life so why

make that an issue? Fast forward a couple of years and my life has been a nightmare. This girl

constantly gets into trouble and has been kicked out of several schools. She lived with her

father during this time. She had to move in with us so that she could attend a new high school in

order to graduate. She's been suspended several times at this high school but it looks like she'll

graduate on time. While living with us, she's gotten into two car accidents once when she was drunk

and we had to remorgge our house to pay her attorney fees and legal bills. The judge

dressed us down in court for not being better parents. I'm not a legal expert but I do think that

judges can put you in jail for arguing so I bit my tongue and took it. It was humiliating.

The girl is a couple of months away from being an adult and this weekend I was out with the

guys and she came up in conversation. I complained about how much money I've spent bailing her out of

trouble and that I can't wait until she turns 18 so that she can face her own consequences.

Word got back to my wife and she blew up at me. I still don't think that I said anything wrong

but I'm staying at a motel tonight. I want to be clear that we're not kicking her out and

considering that she doesn't work she'll be living with us for a while. I'm just waiting for

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