Q&A! Blinded By Breadcrumbs & Does His Bad Taste Mean Bad Compatibility? - Ep 460
Dear Shandy
Sharleen Joynt & Andy Levine
4.9 • 4K Ratings
🗓️ 16 April 2026
⏱️ 69 minutes
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Summary
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you love your husband but find his career boring AF, should you feign interest to spare his feelings, or be 100% honest about your disinterest? Is it acceptable to become close friends with your best friend's partner, even if your best friend doesn't approve? Has Shandy ever dated anyone who brought out the worst in them, and what are their thoughts on "breadcrumbing" in dating? Finally, if your date regularly brings you the ugliest flowers you've ever seen, does that speak to a deeper compatibility and "taste" issue? Come join us in our living room for good conversation and the Shandy take!
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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Housekeeping
3:17 - Q1: I’m Bored To Tears When My Husband Talks About His Job—AITA?
21:16 - Q2: Can I Be Best Friends With My Best Friend’s Wife?
30:27 - Q3: I’m Still Hung Up On A Girl Who Brought Out The Worst In Me—Help!
43:42 - Q4: My New Flame Is Great But His Taste Is Not—Help!
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| 0:00.0 | I love you so much. I just want you to know that you do not have to bring me flowers before these dates. |
| 0:06.8 | It's so sweet, but you don't have to do it anymore. Okay? |
| 0:15.6 | Dear Shandy. |
| 0:19.8 | Welcome back to Dear Shandy listeners. |
| 0:21.8 | Hello, Andy. |
| 0:22.6 | Hello. |
| 0:23.4 | How are you today? |
| 0:24.3 | Doing good. |
| 0:24.9 | Feeling good after listening to all your lady music that was playing. |
| 0:28.8 | Okay. |
| 0:29.4 | So what happened this morning, we usually listen to Andy's. |
| 0:33.2 | I don't, is it man music? |
| 0:34.6 | No. |
| 0:34.8 | It's like, yeah, it's oldies. |
| 0:37.4 | It's old man music. We listen to a lot of Huey Lewis and the news and Steely Dan and what's that other band? Doobie brothers? The Doobie brothers, yes. And because those put Andy in a good mood and I would never take that from you. And I do enjoy the music. But this morning, Andy had a physical. And when he came home, I was blasting Alanis Morissette. She's from Ottawa, you know. First of all, Alanis Morset is fantastic. I mean, I haven't listened to her in so long, and I was just in an Alanus Morset mood. And I am so glad. So I came home and I was like, well, you know what? I'm in the mood for Alanis Morset too. I'm almost never not in the mood for Alainus Morset. |
| 1:14.5 | It's true. And I am so glad. So I came home and I was like, wow, you know what? I'm in the mood for |
| 1:10.9 | Alanis Morissette too. I'm almost never not in the mood for Alanis Morisset. It's true. I think Alanis Morse is one of the greats. And again, from Ottawa. And from Ottawa. And she was one of the greats amongst that whole crew of women singer-songwriters that came out of that like, what was it, like 1994 to 2000. |
| 1:29.9 | Yeah. |
| 1:30.4 | It's like a hundred of them. |
| 1:31.3 | Yeah. It's like a hundred of them. Yeah. There's like the Sarah McLaughlin, Liz Phara, Fiona Apple. Yeah. Names some more. Your guy meets your... Are you putting me on the spot? Amanda Marshall, but she's Canadian. Amanda Marshall's Canadian. Anyway... It's more... I can't think of them when you put me on the spot like that. It's okay. Oh, that other one. The one who sings a thousand oceans. Toriamos. Toriamos. Yes. Okay. So your point being... I used to call her Torrid anus. That was what we did back then. Torrid anus. But we liked her. We called her that affectionately. Affectionately. Oh, that is really, that's very lame. That's very lame. Okay. I shouldn't say lame, though. Okay. Okay, so you're saying the Alanus Morset is the best of those which were all. Don't say best. Don't compare them, Andy. They were all wonderful. She was undoubtedly the best amongst an incredibly strong crew. Every single one of those. I was a huge Fiona Apple fan too. Okay. Huge. Yeah. And Sarah McLaughlin. Yes. But Alanis Morset left them in the dust. Okay. She was the best. |
| 2:51.1 | Not the best, just different. Andy, just different. The best. Well, from Ottawa. Anyway, so shall we get going with a Q&A today? Let's do that. Look at what a good mood all my lady music put you in. It really did. You needed a change. It's so cute. I leave one hour. I come back lady music |
| 2:51.7 | blasting |
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