PSP 043: Do You Blame Yourself for Your Child’s Anxiety and OCD? Why That’s not Good for You or Your Child.

AT Parenting Survival | Raising Kids with OCD & Anxiety

Natasha Daniels: Child Therapist, Child Anxiety and OCD Expert, Parenting Coach and Parent

Ocd In Children, Child Ocd, Child Anxiety, Kids & Family, Ocd Therapy, Mental Health, Anxiety, Health & Fitness, Ocd, Parenting

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🗓️ 21 November 2017

⏱️ 51 minutes

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For some reason as parents we tend to feel this unrealistic weight and responsibility for everything that happens to our children. They got sick? What did we do to not keep them healthy? They got in a fight? Why didn’t we teach them how to solve their problems better? They are struggling in school? Why didn’t we enroll them in pre-school when they were in utero? So, I guess it makes sense that when our kids get anxiety and OCD we throw ourselves under the bus for that as well. Sadly though, all this self-depreciation not only makes us less effective as a parent, but it hurts our kids with anxiety and OCD as well. ***This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a qualified professional.Visit my website at www.ATparentingSurvival.comInterested in my AT Parenting Community Membership? Click below to join us!http://www.atparentingcommunity.com Sign up for my weekly email newsletter:https://pages.convertkit.com/740ba8cd83/92109b7172Take one of my online classes:To view the entire online school library, go to:http://anxioustoddlers.teachable.comClasses include:How to Crush Social Anxietyhttp://anxioustoddlers.teachable.com/p/crush-social-anxietyParenting Kids with OCD http://anxioustoddlers.teachable.com/p/child-ocdCrush Moral OCD in Kidshttp://anxioustoddlers.teachable.com/p/moral-ocdTeaching Kids to Crush Anxietyhttp://anxioustoddlers.teachable.com/p/crush-anxiety Helping Kids with Anxiety or OCD Through Difficult Behaviorshttp://anxioustoddlers.teachable.com/p/difficult-behaviorsHelping Kids Who are Scared to Sleephttp://anxioustoddlers.teachable.com/p/scared-to-sleepHandling Sensory-Based Anxietyhttp://anxioustoddlers.teachable.com/p/sensory-anxietyLibrary of Live Anxiety and OCD Classes (20 hours of class replays)http://anxioustoddlers.teachable.com/p/libraryUltimate list of helpful anxiety products:https://www.anxioustoddlers.com/reduce-child-anxiety/ To join my private Facebook group visit:https://www.facebook.com/groups/ATparentinganxiouskids/For a list of my books visit:https://www.amazon.com/Natasha-Daniels/e/B011K5IIWAJoin the fun on my YouTube channel:https://www.youtube.com/c/anxioustoddlers78 Other social places I hang out:http://www.facebook.com/anxioustoddlershttp://www.pinterest.com/anxioustoddlershttp://www.twitter.com/anxioustoddlershttp://www.instagram.com/anxioustoddlers***

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0:00.0	Welcome to AT Parenting Survival Podcast, where you get supporting guidance through the chaos of parenting.
0:07.0	Here's your host, Child Therapist Natasha Daniels.
0:11.0	Well, hello there, and welcome to another episode of the AT Parenting Survival
0:16.8	Podcast. I hope you're having a great week. Today I want to talk about something
0:21.6	that's a little bit broad, but I think we all can relate to this on on some level.
0:29.1	Do you blame yourself for your child's anxiety or OCD and or. I think as parents we
0:37.5	intuitively tend to blame ourselves for a lot of our kids behaviors, failures, struggles, and really if you think
0:48.0	about it it's kind of ridiculous because we can't take ownership of every
0:52.4	single thing that our children struggle with.
0:56.0	It's not always our fault.
0:57.4	There's a lot of physiological issues going on.
1:00.4	There's a lot of environmental stressors that have nothing to do with us and there are a lot of other things that come into play besides our parenting
1:08.0	But I think we're very hard on ourselves and then if you add to that anxiety or OCD, then you have a whole
1:17.3	another playbook to go on as far as why you're to blame for that as well, which is really sad and really unfortunate because you're going to need all of your
1:26.8	energy and all of your confidence to help your child through and to navigate through their anxiety and
1:34.9	OCD. And unfortunately what happens when we beat ourselves up is we become
1:40.4	really ineffective. So I know if I had titled this podcast become really why that's not good for you, people probably wouldn't really even care because a lot of us
1:56.4	perennally are so selfless that self-care, which we'll get into at the end of this podcast, is really not a priority.
2:06.0	And so how it affects you would just be kind of like, eh, whatever, this isn't about me, my kid's really struggling, so this isn't really something I need to listen to
2:14.5	but when I say no this is really not good for your child then we're all on
2:19.3	board because we're kind of like oh great I'm doing something else that's bad for my child.
2:24.3	My blaming myself is bad for my child, which is kind of like another blame on me.
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