Porn Must Be Destroyed in Community
Focus on Marriage Podcast
Focus on the Family
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🗓️ 16 January 2025
⏱️ 16 minutes
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One of the best ways to defeat porn addiction is to get help from a supportive community. Greg Smalley shares with John and Erin how he found healing through support from other men. Also, Jim Daly asks Mark and Rosie Makinney what healthy community looks like for a marriage that's been harmed by porn addiction.
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| 0:00.0 | In the Old Testament book of Proverbs, chapter 18, we read, |
| 0:09.6 | Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire. |
| 0:13.3 | He breaks out against all sound judgment. |
| 0:17.0 | And that's a true principle that applies to so much of life, |
| 0:20.4 | especially breaking a cycle of porn addiction. |
| 0:23.2 | You can't do it really on your own. |
| 0:26.1 | I'm John Fuller, along with Dr. Greg Smallie and his wife, Aaron, and they lead our marriage team. |
| 0:30.9 | And Greg, community and accountability play a big role in getting through any addiction, but especially pornography. |
| 0:36.8 | It really does, because |
| 0:38.2 | pornography is done in such isolation and secrecy that community is the solution for that part of it, |
| 0:48.4 | because now everything's out. Now I'm sharing, so it's no longer secret. I'm not isolated. I've got, you know, good male friends around me that I'm sharing so it's no longer secret I'm I'm not isolated I've got you know good male friends |
| 0:57.1 | around me that I'm able to talk to I think the biggest thing that I see with with men is is we use |
| 1:04.7 | this word accountability without ever giving it unique definition to what what does that need to look |
| 1:10.3 | like for me uniquely? |
| 1:12.1 | So, for example, so John, if, let's say, that I come to you and I say, hey, I'm really |
| 1:17.8 | struggling with something, which is great. So I've reached out. It's not a secret. I don't, |
| 1:21.8 | not isolated. I need to then say, John, I'd love for you to be my accountability partner. |
| 1:28.6 | Well, that may look like one thing to you and you think you know what that means. |
| 1:32.6 | It may be something totally different for me. |
| 1:35.6 | So the key would be in that situation to define, John, what am I looking for? |
| 1:40.3 | You know, John, when I'm looking for accountability, I'm not expecting you to review my, you know, go through my phone for 20 minutes looking, I mean, all that. I mean, there's great apps and, you know, covenant eyes comes to mind. You know, you can set that up. But it's more just going, what am I really looking for in this relationship that I know is important as a guy, |
| 2:02.2 | man, I want to be isolated. I want to try to do this on my own. I don't want to do that. |
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