Podcast 459: How to break dysfunctional family patterns and heal generational trauma
CLEANING UP YOUR MENTAL MESS with Dr. Caroline Leaf
Dr. Caroline Leaf
4.6 • 3.2K Ratings
🗓️ 23 February 2023
⏱️ 49 minutes
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SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I talk to mindful licensed marriage and family therapist Vienna Pharaon about trauma and family relationships, facing our origin wounds, how to unshackle ourselves from the past to find peace in the present, and so much more! In Vienna’s incredible new book, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate The Way We Live And Love, she talks about how, “armed with the knowledge about our past, we can actually rewire our programming to meaningfully improve our relationships and our lives, right now and in the future”. As Vienna points out, “it doesn’t matter whether you’ve been in therapy for decades, or whether therapy isn’t for you. It doesn’t matter if you have loads of memories from childhood, or struggle to remember anything at all. What matters is your willingness to look inside yourself, and your determination to find a new way forward”.
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EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:
3:25 Vienna’s amazing new book
5:00 What our family teaches us
7:30 The myth of the quick fix
9:35 Why we can’t just blame our parents
11:20 The danger of outsourcing our own healing
21:00, 31:36, 39:00 The five main origin wounds
30:00 Seeing growth & healing through different lenses
41:00 Not all wounds come from a place of abuse or bad intent
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, I'm Dr. Caroline Leif and welcome to my podcast Cleaning Up the Maintainment of Mace. |
| 0:10.4 | How much of our trauma can we blame on our family and parents? |
| 0:15.4 | Can a secret to unlocking long-lasting healing be found in our origin wounds? |
| 0:21.6 | How do we unshackle ourselves from the past so we can find peace in the present and hope |
| 0:26.9 | in the future? |
| 0:28.4 | My guest today to help answer these questions is Vienna Ferron, Mindful, Marriage and Family |
| 0:33.8 | Therapists and Popular Instagram Relationship Expert. |
| 0:37.6 | She is the author of a new book The Origins of You, How Breaking Family Patterns Can |
| 0:42.0 | Liberate the Way We Love and Love. |
| 0:45.2 | Like Baysellers, the body keeps the score and it didn't start with you. |
| 0:49.0 | Ferrons empowering and profound guide to healing old wounds and creating a fresh path forward |
| 0:53.7 | takes a close look at trauma but from a different perspective. |
| 0:56.9 | The Origins of You zeroes in and of families of origin. |
| 1:00.0 | The early caregivers who provided first lessons on everything from love and conflict to |
| 1:04.6 | safety, communication and trust. |
| 1:07.1 | There's no guarantee that the education of our family of origin provides us, or be healing |
| 1:11.8 | or even functional, to be sure families frequently must remark in significant ways, creating |
| 1:17.0 | wounds, beliefs or behaviours that are reflected in the life choices or relationships we choose |
| 1:22.0 | as adults. |
| 1:23.0 | Ferron traces a direct line from prison day behaviours that limit us back to the family |
| 1:27.6 | systems in which we were raised but she doesn't stop there. |
| 1:31.0 | Let's move on to the podcast. |
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