Well, there are different expressions and kinds of love, and we're going to be talking about two different kinds of love today on the show.

I'm Jean Fuller along with Greg Smalley and his wife

Aaron who lead the Focus Marriage team and we're going to start by revisiting a conversation

that Focus President Jim Daly had with Dr David Gud, and they shared about the need that women have for emotional connection in marriage.

In fact, there's a story that you shared about being at a restaurant where you saw kind of that connection firsthand.

Yeah, it was a coffee shop and I was sitting there writing actually working on a different

book that we featured in the past here, but it was fun for me until a few women came and sat in the table next and that was

no big deal, but then a few more came and the number grew to 11. 11 of them they're wearing black

you know colored clothes which turned out to be jazzer sized clothes and they had

definitely just come from you know an exercise class or

whatever it was and so at that point I couldn't continue to write I'm listening to

their conversation you know I'm not trying to be obvious about that, but I was and what

I noticed was they didn't have an agenda. I mean, they didn't, you know, have a meeting that

they had planned. Was this frustrating to you yeah in some ways because

that's what we do is guys how can you just sit at a table and talk this is terrible it's

like you know hey you want to get together What are you going to talk about? You know, that's the immediate question, right? I don't know if I want to have that conversation and they were just there to be friends.

That emotional connection.

Yes, they made the emotional connection

for 45 minutes, then they got up and left.

And I thought, man, that would take some change in people like me.

And you know, there has to be grace in both directions.

I mean, there are so many times I come home from playing golf and Jean will say, you know just Bob how is Bob I go I think he's fine

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