Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast, a place for honest conversations about marriage and practical advice on how to have a God-honoring awesome marriage.

I am your podcast producer and co-host Christina Dodson.

On the show will be your host, Dr. Kim Kimberling.

Dr. Kim is a marriage counselor and has been married for over 40 years.

His passion is to help you strengthen your most

intimate relationship. Many of us try to communicate but have trouble finding the words,

so we end up getting passive aggressive. The problem with that, though, is it doesn't communicate

what you need it to. It doesn't solve any problems and it usually ends up creating a lot more

problems for yourself. So how do you know if you're being passive aggressive? How do you work

towards better communication? How do you deal with a spouse that's being passive aggressive?

Dr. Kim and I are going to discuss all that and more in today's episode. So Dr. Kim, to kick things

off, how can we detect passive aggressiveness in our marriage?

I think if you look at how do we define it?

I mean, it's when you've got some negative feelings.

And instead of just addressing them with your spouse, sitting down and talking about it,

we do it something indirectly to them.

And so we're not, instead of just being forthright, we kind of come in the back door.

And we may do something that, you know, that just to punish them or to hurt them or to,

make them upset about something instead of really sitting down and dealing the issue,

and dealing with the issue.

Yeah, definitely.

I think if there's any kind of conflict or tension in your marriage,

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