Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast. I'm your co-host, Christina Dodson. This is an Ask

Dr. Kim segment where people submit their questions for Dr. Kim Kim, and he answers them.

Thanks for listening. Today I'm asked Dr. Kim, we're going to be discussing how do you guard your

heart when you are dating. So to kick things off, Dr. Kim, what does it mean to guard your

heart? I think it's pacing, falling in love. Maybe is a good way to do that. You know, I think

sometimes we get so infatuated with someone and I've had people say, I only, you know, at first day,

you know, oh my gosh, this is the person I'm going to marry.

And you begin to take steps forward with that.

And you begin to care more.

You begin to, you know, mentally see this person different.

And a lot of times those situations don't work out.

And so I think for me, guarding your heart is just taking that whole process slowly.

Letting time pass, we get impatient, letting God confirm. Is this someone good for you? And

is this person trustworthy for me to love, to give my heart too? Because if you give your heart

and then you find out they're not and you get out of that relationship, there's a lot of pain

that goes along with. a lot of pain that goes

along with. So part of guarding your heart is avoiding pain and avoiding making a really bad

decision. You know, you just want to give yourself time. Yeah. And I think that's a great point,

Dr. Graham. I loved your definition of it. That's great. But I think it's being aware that

relationships cause baggage. And so you have to guard your heart. I loved your definition of it. That's great. But I think it's being aware that relationships

cause baggage. And so you have to guard your heart because relationships cause baggage.

And guard your heart, that's a very Christian thing to say. So if you're not in the Christian

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