Parents' Hardest Questions Answered

Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.4 • 978 Ratings

🗓️ 17 December 2021

⏱️ 34 minutes

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“Parenting is noble work, in part because you are so often reaching through the dark trying to figure out what it means to love this unique child, with their specific challenges, strengths and desires.” Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Tina Gosney of the Parenting Through the Detour podcast to answer difficult questions that are on parents minds and souls. Listen to learn more about: - The normal, but unhelpful tendency to use your child to reinforce your sense of self - The importance of truly knowing and loving your child - The healthy does of compassion that is needed for self and others in the parenting process Don't forget to take advantage of our Christmas Sale! 20% off of all courses with additional discounts when you purchase more than one course. Course Page To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Dr Finlay's and Fife interview archive. We are so glad that you're here.
0:08.0	Don't forget to visit the website and take advantage of the Christmas sale. Now through Christmas, all of the courses are 20% off, with additional discounts available when you buy multiple courses.
0:20.0	I asked a group of parents who are really struggling with their children and these children, this group of parents that I had either they have a child that's left the church or one that is they're just
0:35.2	questioning their desire and ability to stay and the parents are really
0:40.4	struggling in different ways in these with these children that they have.
0:45.5	So I limited it to several but it's a pretty good representation of all the questions that were
0:51.0	asked and we'll see how many of them we can get through in the next 30 minutes or so.
0:56.0	Right.
0:58.0	So the first question was, when you have a child that leaves the church and adopts a different lifestyle than you have or the one you hoped
1:05.2	that they would have. What can you do to maintain a positive influence in their life?
1:11.3	By loving them. I mean you will always have a positive influence if you genuinely
1:16.8	care for them and care for their well-being more than you care about reinforcement of yourself or your, you know, professed beliefs or even your way of life.
1:32.0	If you just care for them and they know that's true.
1:35.6	Now that's easy to say that.
1:37.6	Well, of course I love my child.
1:39.2	Right.
1:40.2	Are you willing to really be involved in their life and
1:45.2	Express your care for them even if they're making choices that distress you?
1:50.0	You know my brother left the church and was also making choices that were really harmful to his life and really unwise choices for quite a period of time.
2:06.2	And I have to say my mother was really like
2:11.4	remarkable in many respects because I watched her, like I know that it caused her
2:18.4	pain to see him make the choices that he made. I know that she felt disappointment and some self-judgment
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