I amla. I've been very open about the fact that I was not always good and making my

relationships work. I have been divorced three times twice from the same person. In other words, I have seen a lot and failed a lot in my relationships.

So I am here to share with you what I learned along the way because I did take copious notes.

Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. People think that communication is the biggest issue in relationships and I want to offer that there's another C word that we need to

really take seriously and put into practice in our relationships and that C word is compromise. You give a little, I give a little. You take a little, I take a little. Compromise leads to cooperation and cooperation leads to harmony and cohesiveness

but when there is no willingness to compromise, there's going to be problems.

Because without compromise, someone is going to have to sacrifice themselves or what's important to them in order to remain in the relationship.

And sacrifice is the lowest level of compromise.

It vibrates at a very low level,

which means it's going to lead to resentment

and bitterness, anger, and breakup. and

break up.

Compromise has to be there because what compromise says

is that your needs and your wants are as important as mine and because

you matter to me I'm willing to work this thing out.

Now, if you can't communicate that, you're going to have a problem.

But compromise is important.

And that's exactly where my caller is today. Let's take a listen.

Good afternoon, beloved.

Welcome to the R-Spot, and what is your relationship challenge issue

dilemma that we can work through today. Hello how are you? I'm good.

This is really awesome talking to you by the way. I thought I should let you know that.

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