I guarantee that the majority of couples are sort of in a holding pattern, or you're doing

the same things that you've always been doing.

We don't often even think to change our sex life to have these conversations.

Just let them know that it's a team effort here, and that you both, to learn together,

to grow, to understand your bodies.

And the jackhammer thing, like let's work on that.

You could even say I'd love to go slower with you and find ways to have penetration that

feels really great for both of us.

Not sure what it is yet, but let's do some exploring.

You're listening to Sex with Emily.

I'm Dr. Emily, and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation

around sex.

It's a good time to expand our definition of sex.

At the end of the day, sex is play for adults.

It's where we collaborate with another person, creating a momentary world of pleasure and

eroticism with them.

It's so often we assume that sex equals penetration, and here's the problem with that.

Not everyone orgasms during penetration.

Not everyone feels erotic during penetration.

So let's make sex more interesting and exploratory, shall we?

On today's show, I'm talking up all the different types of non-paraturative sex, like

mutual masturbation, central massage, toys, hand stuff, to help you break out of a conventional

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