So, shame to me is a feeling around not being able to live the way you want because of

judgment or someone's, someone's putting a feeling on you or something that's been

ingrained on you that makes you feel that you're wrong or that you're gross or that you're

not enough. That's my definition of shame. You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr.

Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex.

So what cultural or religious programming do you have around sex? Even if you didn't grow up in

a church, sexual shame is in so many ways the air we breathe. But here's the reality. You didn't

put those thoughts there. Someone else did. And on today's show with guest,

Erin Tillman, we're calling out those judgmental messages and choosing the sex messaging that

actually serves us. The result? A radically more authentic, more liberated sex life.

As an inclusive dating coach, Erin is no stranger to shame and she's heard it all from her clients.

Whether it was that one rude thing a partner said that haunted you for years or a parent

that told you masturbation was dirty. Shame loves to hide in the shadows and hold you back in the

bedroom. So on today's show, Erin and I talk about how we healed our own sexual shame, dropped

performative sex and got comfortable with the word no. You'll also learn the difference between no

and not yet when it comes to dating, how to make good choices on dating apps and how to flip your

internal shame script. All right, intentions with Emily for each episode. I want to start off by

setting an intention for the show. I do it. I encourage you to do the same. So when you're listening,

what do you want to get out of this episode? My intention is to help you see shame. Like really,

really see it so you can heal it. Shame thrives in secrecy. But once we shed light on it,

it starts to dissolve and that leads to a more liberated sex life. Please rate and review

sex with Emily wherever you listen to the show. My new article, overcoming four common sex fears,

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