Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout Podcast, Kelly here.

And today we're going to talk about how to opt out of outrage.

This has been on my heart to talk about for a while, and I've had conversations, as always, with black women around this topic.

And my constant battle within myself, though it happens a lot less often, to be fair, between being outraged and being

angry and opting out of outrage and leaving that all behind. And it is something that used to be

a very case-by-case, moment-by-moment thing. And now, perhaps with age, perhaps also on my

journey to opting out of the struggle, it's not something I grapple with anymore. I have, for the

most part, opted out of outrage. Today's episode, I want to talk about moral outrage, what it looks like, how it impacts

us in our body, but then offer an alternative of what we can do and how we can channel outrage,

dissatisfaction, heartbreak, pain into something else. I'd started doing a lot of work on moral outrage a couple

years ago. The way I started with moral outrage was thinking about, I do in my other life, I do a lot

of work around community building and how to build community in the workplace, which is very different than

building community outside of it, but has some of the same kind of threads to it.

I started being really interested in what builds community and what tears it down.

And I realized that moral outraged unchecked destroyed community, that it was the enemy of community.

And yet we need to have space to be angry about something.

We need to have space to express our dissatisfaction with things.

But the question becomes, how do we do that?

And so I want to give you an alternative, like I said, and I want to define moral outrage.

So moral outrage really is what happens when we feel an injustice has happened.

When we feel people are not acting in a way that is moral or correct or proper.

And as a result, we want to shame or punish the person who or peoples that have done this

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