Welcome to the Black Oburn out podcast.

Kelly here.

And today I want to talk about how to opt out of losses and what it means to lose and really redefining what loss is and what it isn't

and hopefully have a new perspective on this.

I was inspired to create this episode because of an Instagram post and it is from Yelda Ali.

We will make sure that we link her in this show notes so you could immediately start following

her.

But this is what she said in her post.

She said, not everything you lose is a loss.

Some things are freedom.

And I read that post and I thought, how beautiful.

Not everything you lose is a loss.

Sometimes it's freedom.

And it took me down this whole rabbit hole of thinking about how we talk about loss in

Western culture, in just the world in general, and how we can start to shift that for ourselves,

particularly as black women, where it feels like loss is so tied up in our legacy and our heritage that we think about

loss as this inevitable thing, which it is to be human, is to lose something or someone at some

point in your life. But also is like an expectation of the black experience that there's so much loss

built into blackness that if we dwell on that, it can really shape the way we engage with the

world. And I mean, that's what this podcast is about. It's about ways to opt out of struggle and

ways to not let

loss be your legacy. And so I want to talk about how that quote hit me and how I am trying to

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