Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout podcast, Kelly here.

And today I want to talk about how to opt out of dissatisfaction.

We live in a world where being dissatisfaction. We live in a world where being dissatisfied seems to be a state of being.

There is this never enough mentality.

And some of it's grounded in real dissatisfaction about the world, about the people around you, about yourself.

That may be grounded in logic and it might be real. There's a lot if you look around in this

world to be dissatisfied by. There are parts in my life when I think about it that I think, oh, I should have

been here by now, or I could be making more money than I'm doing right now. Or this project that I did

could have been better. For a lot of years in my life, I lived in a state of dissatisfaction.

Now, if you knew me, you may not have noticed that off the bat. Maybe I wasn't actively

complaining about every area of my life. I am not a person who's going to ever talk about my feelings really easily. I know

that's funny considering this podcast and all I do is talk about my feelings now. But in the past,

that was just not me. And in the present, I still struggle to share with people close to me what's

going on inside of my heart or what's bothering me. It's just a block for me.

It's very hard. So on the outside, it might not have looked like I was very dissatisfied.

I was really putting on a brave, bright, smiley face. But inside, it was nothing but feelings of dissatisfaction just swirling around.

Why am I single? Or why did this job turn out this way? Or why is this friendship a

disappointment? Why can I be already where I want to be in my career? Why can't I have the amount of money I deserve?

I work hard. And a lot of the feelings of dissatisfaction weren't always blaming other people.

In fact, part of what got me so stuck is I was always blaming myself for not being enough,

for not having enough, for not changing the world to be the way it should be.

And I was miserable.

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