Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout podcast. Kelly here. And the phrase of the day is, perspective is not permission.

Now let me tell you what I mean by that.

I did an episode a while back, maybe even a year ago, called Ops Out of Bitterness, and I talked about how to not let yourself get stuck in bitterness when bad things

happen to you. Really terrible, justifiably tragic things

have happened. How do you not sit with bitterness? Or how do you not let maybe a bunch of small

disappointments that everywhere you turn is something is going wrong? How do you not let that make you bitter?

And this has been a journey that I've had to go on where while I wouldn't have described

myself as a bitter person, in the past, I have struggled with letting go. I've talked about how

I'm like the number one grudge holder. Oh, you are dead to me when I'm done with you.

I don't want to talk to you again.

I don't want to see you again.

And I am bitter.

I am not in a good space.

And how I had to let go of that mentality in order to be able to have joy.

And part of that realization came from the phrase, perspective is not permission.

Because what that really means to me is getting perspective on a situation doesn't mean that you've given permission to someone saying they're off the hook. Oh, it's fine, you disrespected me. It's fine. My job did not

give me the promotion I well deserved. It's fine. Perspective isn't permission. It's neither

permission for someone to not be accountable for a wrong or a situation not be accountable for

a wrong. And it also doesn't get permission for

someone to continue to do you wrong. But being able to step back and being able to see things

from all sides is freeing, is joyful, unlocks abundance, makes the world a beautiful place again.

You know, all the things that we're supposed to have, that's our birthright as black women.

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