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Safe means staying in the relationship that's comfortable but not fulfilling.

Safe means taking the job that pays the bills but kills your soul.

Safe means following the blueprint that looks good from the outside but feels empty on the inside.

Safe decisions often lead to a life that looks successful but feels meaningless,

which of course then is not successful, right?

I spent many years following a blueprint that wasn't even mine.

The beautiful wife, House in the Hills, three-picture deal, nice cards, like it all.

By the way, I did not get the three-picture deal.

That was part of my blueprints, but it wasn't part of my reality, which is why I used to be a miserable

fun. It looked like success, but it felt hollow because it wasn't part of my reality, which is why I used to be a miserable fuck.

It looked like success, but it felt hollow because it wasn't honest to who I actually was.

I'm John Kim, a licensed therapist who used to be a miserable fuck before going on a hero's journey and turning expired relationships into revelations.

I use my story to help others come with you instead of at you, unrehearsed on purpose, because self-help

doesn't have to be polished or complicated, just honest.

Before I start today's episode, can I just say real quick, I don't know if you've seen these prank social media clips.

I saw this last night and I was just like, what the fuck?

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