When you're betrayed, it's easy to believe that the person who wronged you gets to just go about their life unbothered while you're left behind having to pick up the broken pieces of your life.

But that's not how it works. None of us get away with anything. We know deep down

inside ourselves when we have done something or said something that is inconsistent with our

values and with our character. And we can try to suppress it, we can try to deny it, we can try to blame the other person.

But it's going to come up. It's going to come up in our stress.

It's going to come up in our relationships.

It's going to come up in our shame.

Just know that whatever story you're telling yourself about them,

you don't have the whole picture. You just have to focus on you and your healing. So like if

you've been ghosted, guaranteed that person is haunted by their own ghost.

And again, people can suppress it, but it's going to show up.

You know, the human psyche keeps a record.

The conscious mind might forget or try to forget.

And like I said, it will justify.

It will, it may construct elaborate explanations and stories

that allow a person to see themselves as like, you know,

the hero or just not the villain.

But underneath that narrative, beneath the rationalizations,

beneath the self-protective story,

the subconscious keeps score, and it does not forget.

And it shows up in anxiety that we can't really explain. It'll show up for someone in sleepless nights.

It'll show up as like this like gnawing persistent shame that lingers in the background of a person's life.

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