Nice Narcissists Covert Mind Games
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
Lisa A. Romano
4.8 • 806 Ratings
🗓️ 24 February 2023
⏱️ 13 minutes
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Summary
A 'nice' narcissist is a vulnerable narcissist who may appear unassuming when you first meet them. They focus entirely on you when you first meet and mirror your best qualities to you, helping to secure your trust in them. Over time, a covert narcissist will use mind games you may not initially understand as a form of abuse or control. For instance, stonewalling can invalidate your emotions, needs, or desires to clear the air or get to the bottom of a relationship issue. In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach, helps us better understand how subtle invalidation is a form of covert abuse.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast. |
| 0:06.0 | My name is Lisa A. Romano. |
| 0:08.0 | I am a life coach, best-selling author, YouTube vlogger, meditation teacher, an expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse. |
| 0:16.0 | I am a believer in the power of an organized mind. |
| 0:20.0 | My aim is to help people learn what it means to live above the veil of consciousness |
| 0:24.9 | rather than living a reactive life. |
| 0:28.3 | May your heart feel blessed, your mind feel expanded, and your spirit find hope |
| 0:32.8 | as you spend time with me here at the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast. |
| 0:39.0 | When you are being emotionally invalidated by a narcissist, what you will notice over |
| 0:44.2 | time you might not notice when you're right in the middle of it, especially if you're |
| 0:48.6 | struggling with a trauma bond and the narcissist has done a really good job at pulling |
| 0:53.3 | you in through love bombing, you, |
| 0:55.1 | idealizing you, making you feel good about you. You get activated or this level of narcissism |
| 1:00.4 | and yourself gets activated. And it's a natural thing that happens. You start to feel like, |
| 1:05.7 | oh, there I am. It's like you don't know who you are until you look into a mirror or you don't know what |
| 1:11.4 | you look like until you look into a mirror. |
| 1:13.6 | And so when someone is reflecting back to you, the qualities that you hold that are wonderful |
| 1:19.0 | qualities. |
| 1:20.1 | And when someone says, I see these qualities in you, it's a magical experience. |
| 1:24.8 | It helps you feel seen. |
| 1:25.9 | It helps you anchor to the self. |
| 1:28.7 | Narcissists use that to their advantage to exploit other people. |
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