Never Dated (w/ Kim Chi)

Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

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4.8 • 15.6K Ratings

🗓️ 24 October 2025

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

Drag queen icon Kim Chi (RuPaul's Drag Race S8, author of Kim Chi Eats The World) joins Nicole to talk about what it’s like to have never dated anyone, and whether she even wants to. She opens up about being afraid to get hurt, growing up with crushes who didn’t like her back, and why are all the conspiracy nuts booed up? Kim shares wild stories from her drag-tour days (including the time she was recognized during a lap dance), having a twink convention show up at her hotel, and story about queens who skip meet-and-greets and cause chaos on tour. Plus, she and Nicole bond over their mutual hatred of Animal Crossing, her love of cottage cheese, and shares easy recipes from her new cookbook Kim Chi Eats The World.

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0:00.0	Want to watch this episode? Catch the full video on YouTube. Just hit the link in the episode
0:04.4	description.
0:07.0	This is a headgum podcast.
0:09.9	I was looking ahead on my calendar and I realized that the holidays aren't as far away as a thought.
0:16.1	That's, that time always gets so busy. So I'm going to get ahead of the game and shop for looks
0:21.7	they'll take me from now into the holiday season.
0:24.5	Lucky for me, Macy's big fall sale is happening now with 40 to 60% off fall essentials
0:30.3	that'll take us from now to then.
0:33.0	Anne Klein and DKMI have some adorable dresses I've been eyeing.
0:36.8	So it's the time to buy. Macy's also
0:39.6	has tons of luxurious cashmere in so many colors, which honestly, I think I might just start
0:46.0	wearing now. I might also pick up a new Calvin Klein suit from a friend as a gift. There are so
0:52.4	many holiday parties coming up and we'll want to show off.
0:55.5	Macy's big fall sale is happening now through October 26.
0:59.8	Shop at Macy's.com or in store.
1:03.0	Your first great love story is free when you sign up for a free 30-day trial at audible.com.
1:07.8	That's audible.combe. U.K. slash Wondery.co.com.uk slash Wondery. That's audible.com. dot UK slash Wondery. On tour, we went to, I think it was like a swinging richards or something, or it was like some like strip club. And then the promoter about lap dances for all the queens. Uh-huh. And then all the queens were getting like their hot lap dances from like their goad dancers. And mine looks me and he goes you're kimchi right and I was like no you're taking me out of the fantasy
1:32.9	and then I was like yes and he was like I'm a huge fan I'm like no no I just wanted you to be a piece
1:41.4	of meat that's all beautiful and sexy just dangling in front of me I just wanted to to be a piece of meat. That's all beautiful and sexy, just dangling it in front of me.
1:45.9	I just wanted to objectify you, and now you've humanized yourself as a person with a TV in your home.
1:51.9	Yes.
1:54.6	Why won't you date me?
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