Navigating Jealousy in Relationships & Exploring Non-Monogamy ft. Janet W. Hardy
Dear Shandy
Sharleen Joynt & Andy Levine
4.9 • 4K Ratings
🗓️ 28 January 2021
⏱️ 67 minutes
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Summary
Jealousy is a beast of a topic, so we thought long and hard about who to help us tackle it. Shandy brought the big guns: who better to talk jealousy than the woman who quite literally WROTE THE BOOK on open relationships? We're thrilled to welcome Janet W. Hardy, the co-author of The Ethical Slut, the iconic guide to polyamory that was first published in 1997 and is now on its 3rd edition. As someone experienced in both monogamy and non-monogamy, Janet is no stranger to the jealousy trap. We ask Janet: Why do we feel jealous, what do those feelings often represent, and how can we navigate them? Can jealousy be a good thing for a relationship, and is there such a thing as not being jealous enough? Finally, we pick Janet's brain about open relationships and her personal experiences with polyamory. Can non-monogamy work if it's only one-sided, and do open relationships reflect an inability to commit? Janet is an incredibly frank and honest guest, so Shandy invites you to listen with an open mind and enjoy.
"The Ethical Slut" by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton - https://amzn.to/39pWx97
The referenced Rolling Stone article - https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-features/the-ethical-slut-inside-americas-growing-acceptance-of-polyamory-112319/
More Janet on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jhardyauthor/
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| 0:00.0 | Monogamy is so much easier when you know you're gonna be dead at 29 from typhoid fever. |
| 0:04.1 | Like every, of course, why not? |
| 0:06.2 | I'll be cheaper or any of the things people buy them back. |
| 0:08.8 | Consumption. |
| 0:10.0 | Dear Shandy. |
| 0:15.4 | Welcome back to Dear Shandy listeners. |
| 0:18.4 | It's a big day, Andy. |
| 0:19.5 | It sure is. |
| 0:20.7 | We have finally the hot topic episode that I've been wanting to do since the beginning of this podcast. |
| 0:27.2 | And probably before we had a podcast. |
| 0:29.1 | Certainly, yes. |
| 0:30.4 | And I don't know if you remember, but even in the trailer for this podcast, we said, |
| 0:35.1 | one day we hoped to have a hot topic on jealousy. |
| 0:39.2 | And I did a lot of thinking over who I wanted to bring on to talk about jealousy with. |
| 0:45.6 | I decided to pull from my own experience. |
| 0:49.1 | And I thought of a book that I read when I was in my mid-20s and it made a huge impact on me. |
| 0:54.8 | And I kind of can't believe that she said yes and I'm so excited she's here with us today. |
| 1:01.0 | She's the co-author of The Ethical Slut, which was published in 1997. |
| 1:06.1 | And this book is famous for having dispeled myths and covered all the skills necessary to maintain |
| 1:15.5 | a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle. |
| 1:18.8 | And I think it was way ahead of its time. |
| 1:22.2 | It played a pivotal role in redefining how healthy and functional, |
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