My Personal Love Lessons

The Angry Therapist Podcast

John Kim

Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 11 January 2023

⏱️ 34 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, John talks about the love lessons he's learned from his own experiences in relationships.

Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.

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0:00.0	Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago
0:05.6	and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.
0:10.3	I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose
0:16.2	because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.
0:21.1	My personal love lessons.
0:23.0	All right, this is where I get vulnerable, grab a beverage, pull up a chair, maybe you're driving or laying down, I don't know what you're doing, but this is going to be a long one I have a
0:33.5	cup of coffee next to me let me take a sip one sec and this is going to be a long
0:39.7	one because I've learned so much I am 45 years old I've been in relationships most of my life
0:47.6	I've also coached thousands with their relationships and of course I write about love and dating and
0:55.0	relationships and all that and I've been doing that for the last decade so I've learned
0:59.0	some things and I wanted to share them with you. We learned through our own stories. Take what you will and leave the rest. Okay, so the first thing I've learned is that the power of love and the early imprints and also the distortions that they produce.
1:17.0	So usually, and if you look back at your love experiences the most powerful ones were the early ones right and when I say early I'm not talking about when you were playing in the sandbox and had a crush or first discovered that you actually like someone or you felt
1:38.4	the tingling of someone who excites you in a sexual way. I'm talking about high school, college, you know, maybe in your early 20s.
1:48.0	When you really get into a relationship where you are submerging yourself and hanging out with the person.
1:57.0	Usually these early imprints are the most powerful because of're the first ones right and the mistake that most people make is
2:07.0	when they get older they compare
2:11.4	They're the relationship that they are now with the feeling they had back in the early days.
2:18.0	And the reason why that is unfair and also unhealthy and not accurate is because there's a huge
2:26.3	distortion there right when we were when we were younger and we had no tools. We just were attracted to someone we didn't know why and
2:38.4	everything was life for death and you know and if the relationship was bad then the sky was falling and if it
2:45.0	was good then life was amazing your day basically depended on your relationship with your partner, right?
2:55.4	And so all the weight was on that.
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