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I'm 11 a.m. Welcome to the program. Hi, Dr. Laura. It was truly a pleasure to talk to you. I've been listening to you for pretty close to 30 years and I've raised my kids.

According to your advice and I've been my husband's girlfriend for 30 years. Good. Thank you. Yes, ma'am. So today I am speaking your wisdom. My husband and I have come across a little bit of a crossroads. I guess we jarred this.

I mean to speak to you about it was last week I was here and you speak to that gentleman who he was talking about how he had such an active sex life. I guess so much more active sex life than his wife and he was kind of asking you how he should approach that with his wife if he should pressure her or give her I guess her space.

And I thought you gave him some excellent advice. So I guess I'm the wife and that I feel I feel at this point my husband's always had a very, very active sex drive and he's very loving. He's a very touchy, silly guy.

I'm a little bit on the opposite. I've always been more of a personal space girl, but we have managed. But now that he's somewhat retired. I just feel like he's very kind of at the point where I'm not going to be able to talk to him.

At the point where I get resentful of him, to the point where I kind of feel like it's more harassment. I mean, not in a mean, I don't mean to say it sounded in a mean way.

But like it's just always on his mind. So I get almost like if I'm walking down the hallway and we pass past across we cross paths who like touch me in like in more my private spots or if we still just always want to talk about it like.

And I guess this becomes a lot to the point where we had a very deep conversation last week. I just think we really need on the same page with this because it's starting to I'm starting to become resentful of you.

And we talked about it. I started to say, well, I'm getting nervous. How about I just start. He's like, why are you resentful? I mean, I guess I couldn't really pinpoint it until I said, let me start writing down. It's going to write down on a piece of paper.

To myself every time I just start to feel that resentment build up and why it happened. And as I'm jogging it down and starting to realize it's because of all the times that he either brings up. Hey, you know, we were playing ping pong the other day to get yesterday together. He goes, you know, I really like to play ping pong with you naked. I'm just like Brian, you know, can't we just play ping pong and you not bring this up. Can't we just connect, you know, more intimate way than being intimate. You know, just doesn't feel like it's there.

I guess at the end of the day, my question is to you, Dr. Laura, is I think that a solution might be first to have scheduled sex, like maybe if I felt like if I said, okay, every three days we can have sex, but during those non sex days, you just have to commit to me. You have to be more intimate with me emotionally. And I was wondering how you felt about that. If that would be a good idea.

Why don't you try it for a month to you out works.

Okay. Okay. I can do that.

Do you expect it? Yes, ma'am. I guess I feel that it's not rude to say to him is that because I feel like you can say how about this is an experiment.

Okay. Okay. Offer it that way. How about this as an experiment? Okay.

That was a good one. I'm sorry. Is he a good lover? Yes, he is. He's very attentive to my needs. He is. He's a very good lover.

One thing I didn't hear in this whole conversation is you don't want orgasms?

I do like orgasms, yes. But you don't want them?

I do. So currently we do have sex about two to three times a week. I mean, for, you know, I'm almost 50.

I've been through menopause. I guess I'm just losing my drive just a little bit.

Well, I think you're, I think saying the only part of your experiment I would change is well, make an appointment.

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