My entitled friend demands that I have a mole on my face surgically removed if I want to be a bridesmaid in her wedding.

And now I'm completely torn and I seriously don't know what to do.

So I'm posting this because I'm going back and forth on this issue and I honestly overall feel very conflicted.

My friend by the name of Zoe, that's not her real name, is getting married and I'm said to be a bridesmaid in her wedding, which is early next year. I'm a 24-year-old female and she's a 25-year-old female. I am excited for the wedding, and I'm doing everything I can to help her out with planning and setting things up. Recently, Zoe asked me out for coffee away from the other bridesmaids, as she said that she wanted to talk to me about something privately. So I agreed, and I asked her if there was something wrong. She said it was nothing huge, and that she just wanted to talk to me. So I met up with Zoe the other day, just like she asked me to, and it was right there that she sent something I honestly never thought anyone would say to me.

She said, I want you to get that mole on your face removed before my wedding. Now, for some

context, I have a mole on my right cheek, and it's kind of near my nose. It's not huge, but

it's definitely noticeable. Zoe explained that she wanted everyone to look really good in the

wedding photos, as well as on the wedding day, which I really do think is understandable overall. She then said, the mull on your face is going to be a distraction. It's just not going to look good in any of the photos. She then said that she would pay for the surgery out of pocket, as she could afford to do that. And all I would have to do is go in and get it removed. I then told her that I really would

need some time to think about it. She then said to me, I understand, but just so you know, this will be a mandatory procedure if you want to be one of my bridesmaids. And after that, I just said that I would get back to her. Now, I'm really conflicted over all of this, because I have had times where I've been insecure about my

mole and Zoe wasn't lying when she said that it distracts from my face. So if she was asking me to

remove it, it may be better in the long run. And as a plus, she's going to be paying for all of it.

However, I don't really know if I want such a procedure done on my face, which is why I'm

thinking about not going through

with it. But on the other hand, Zoe is my friend, and more importantly, she's the bride, and I want

her to have the best day ever, which is why I think I may be the jerk if I didn't get this done.

And just to clear a few things up, I'm not completely insecure about my mole, at least not so much

anymore. I used to cover

it up with foundation and heavy concealer and all of that, and now I feel more comfortable wearing

less makeup and not covering it. It doesn't mean that I 100% love it, but I'm slowly starting to

embrace it. I haven't really mentioned anything about my insecurity to Zoe, except maybe once or

twice in the past.

What this comes down to is that I don't know if I would actually want a procedure like that done,

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