my EX is still in the GROUPCHAT 👻

Confidently Insecure

Kelsey Darragh

Society & Culture, Education, Comedy

4.8 • 1.8K Ratings

🗓️ 13 October 2025

⏱️ 34 minutes

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Summary

Breakups used to end when you gave back the hoodie and blocked their AIM screen name. But now? Your ex is still in your group chat, haunting your Spotify playlists, and popping up in your “On This Day” memories like a digital poltergeist. 💀

In this episode of Confidently Insecure, I’m unpacking the new hellscape of digital breakups — from the psychology of why we hold onto those tiny online connections, to the emotional chaos of navigating shared group chats, and the art of a full-on digital exorcism (delete, block, cleanse, repeat).

We’ll talk about what it actually takes to move on in the age of social media, how to reclaim your digital space, and why closure isn’t something they give you — it’s something you create.

If you’ve ever said “I’m totally over them” while still checking their Venmo feed... this one’s for you

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0:00.0	Oh, welcome to confidently and share the podcast where we are absolutely fucking sure we don't know everything.
0:12.3	I am your host, Kelsey Darry and Confidants, we are getting into it today, baby.
0:17.7	That's right.
0:19.0	By the title, you can tell, this is going to be a saucy one, a spicy
0:22.8	one. We're talking about
0:24.7	the scariest ghost
0:26.7	of all time. I am not talking about Halloween
0:28.5	coming up. No, no, no.
0:30.5	I am talking about
0:32.1	the ghost of
0:34.5	your ex and how
0:36.4	they digitally can't seem to disappear.
0:39.8	But first, don't Google it.
0:42.2	Sure, that was the wrong button.
0:44.9	You might be watching this and thinking, Kelsey, you're on a different chair.
0:49.1	And you're right on YouTube.com slash Kelsey Darry.
0:51.9	You could see that I am, in fact, sitting in a different chair because why I am moving things around again. I had to take away my couch because why my cat's peed on it. They're 15 turning 16 this year. Sometimes I say they're 16 but I think I do that to him the same way that I start telling people I'm a year older than I actually am because I'm mentally trying to prep for that.
1:17.2	So I do it to my cats too, apparently.
1:20.1	And they don't like change.
1:22.5	And I just cleared out my guest bedroom, my third bedroom, because I'm trying to make it a rentable space
1:29.2	because your girl might be going to live with the athlete for a little bit. I know I've been
1:38.0	hinting at it. I know I've been saying it a lot lately of me just being like, should I go live in
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