You're listening to the Impact Theory podcast, your source of empowering ideas and actionable techniques from the world's highest achievers. Join host Tom Billiou, serial entrepreneur and co-founder of the billion dollar brand Quest Nutrition, on a journey to unlock your potential and realize your vision of success. Welcome to Impact Theory. Hey everybody, welcome to another episode of Facebook Live Relationship Theory. I am one of your hosts, Tom Billiou. And I am Lisa. Do you have a last name? Hmm, how could it be? Every little weird to change your last name. That is as a guy not something that I've ever had to even contemplate

It was super weird when we first got married and is it really true that when you saw my first film you thought hmm That's an interesting last name. Oh, hell yeah, but like as in I want to make it mine Not really so Tom was my teacher So you're shattering my dreams right now. I should have known better than to ask this question Because in my mind I was always like I mean, it's a, so we should give context. So you are my teacher. Yeah. You showed your film. School for adults. School for adults. You showed your movie that you made in college and at the end it said, you know, directed, produced and written by Tom Billu. Now, are you gonna lie? It's a Thomas Bill. Oh, it's trying to be very official.

Oh, yeah, that's true. It's like what do you mean by? Yeah, Thomas bill you. So, I remember thinking like, yeah, like that's an interesting last name. And of course, it wasn't like, I'm gonna have that my, as my name and write it on, you know, like the school folders I was not not that. But it definitely was like, hmm, here's, you know, hot guy with like, I mean, look, you know that I was very attracted to the fact that you were so talented. So having seen a movie that like that you had shot that was so creative was very, I was a turn on it. Can I say that on TV?

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And then seeing your last name was awesome.

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So get on that impact theory t-shirt tip by sharing this content and yeah, there it is. Boom. Alright, now let's dive in. First question we've got. First question, we're going to go to one from last week. We'll start it there and then as people start. Yeah, start submitting your questions guys so we can down to this week. Live. Alright say no last week we'll start off there and then as people start yeah starts emitting your questions guys we can get down to this week live all right say no last week and this is from Carl Apsi Tom and Lisa it's spectacular you doing this episode and quite timely for my current situation me my girlfriend of two and a half years are moving in together temporarily to cut costs and spend more time. I know, yeah. That's interesting, he said temporarily. We'd love to hear about how that happened for you to and any advice you'd give for a couple making that move. Yeah, so I'll just address the elephant in the room and say that I find it very worthy of discussion that you're saying you're moving in temporarily and that you're doing it to save money. Oh, and to spend more time. That is, I will just say that's very unromantic. So, God, you got to be careful with stuff like that. So, if you're not ready to move in, don't move in. And I think that that's a very reasonable response to say, like, that's not where I'm at and that's not what I wanna do. But if you're going to do it, like, make the most of the situation and really embrace it and do it wholeheartedly. So for instance, when I decided that I was gonna propose, that was the hard thing. Once I decided I was to propose, like I was already committed. So getting married was easy. So I put a lot of time and energy into thinking about whether or not I should propose, wow, I should propose. But then once I had decided to propose, like that was very easy. Everything else really was about expressing, you know, being romantic and really making you feel to the core of your being how much I love you. So I'll give you an example. We've talked about this before, but bears repeating. When we set up this company, our lawyers expressly advise us not to do it 50-50. And the reason they said that, hey, do 51-49, that way, God forbid, hey, if things ever were to go

arrive, that it would be very clear who controls the company. And I said, no, I want you to create the ultimate divorce nightmare. Now, the reason that I said that isn't because I think that it's somehow good for business, it's that it's very good for the relationship. And that one percentage point, which you would have very easily said, okay, find this something deal that would have rolled off your back and not a worry. But for me,

it really was way more important to show you that I'm totally committed and invested in this relationship. And I see it being totally equal then to try and like hedge my bets or protect myself or whatever. Now that's obviously from the position of having been married for almost 15 years, but it's, it was little things like that all along the way that has further solidified our relationship. So I don't think you have any obligation to move in together, but if you're going to do it all the way. But here's a question that's coming from all these decisions were made based on the fact you've never got stung before, right? So it's not, it's not like, so let's say for instance this guy, he was in a relationship and he was, he brought a apartment, I was going to say flat apartment together and she just took everything and so now he's in another relationship, he's like, oh God, I don't want that same problem. So, oh, it makes financial sense, but like, so how do you, if you've been stung before, how do you still come to that conclusion? Or do you still come to that conclusion? Yeah. So everything for me boils down to psychology. So like I said, there's no obligation for you guys to move in together. I don't think that that is, I don't feel one way or the other about that. move in, want to move in, move in, if you don't, don't.

I'm just saying whatever you choose, choose it.

Don't halfway choose it because it sets you up so strangely in the relationship to say, hey, there are three reasons that we're moving in together. Two of them have nothing to do with love, romance, and commitment. That to me is a mistake. And that is, you're gonna feel those reverberations

in the relationship.

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