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You know we have to be careful as parents not to put down our kids, especially when they're sharing their dreams and hopes and goals and they don't seem to line up with my dreams and hopes and goals for them. I'm John Fuller along with Danny Werter

head of our parenting department and if you take the time to really listen to

what your kids want to be or do or have or how they want to help you might be surprised.

Dr. Kathy Cook shared a great example of how much one child was able to achieve

when his parents encouraged his dream of doing something pretty unusual.

She spoke with Focus President Jim Daly and me about that.

One of the things you recommend in the book is to know your child better, take a piece of paper, put it into fourths, and you ask four questions.

And what are they, and you're doing this really to get to know them better?

I think it's brilliant for parents to do this.

Oh thanks and for you to do it as well so the kids can get to know you.

That's good. And then you can find out if the family has anything in common.

What are those four things?

Yeah, five things you want to be in your lifetime. So in one of the

boxes right there would be five things I want to be in my lifetime. The next one is do.

Can I get with each of these? Give me an example. The five things I want to be

to be. I want to be kind. I want to be I want to be kind I want to be content like it would be wonderful

if they would mention character or I want to be a policeman I want to be married so kind of a

vocational or state of life what's very interesting is if you do this and then you analyze it,

is it all material career or is it character?

Interesting.

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