Mothers Of Sons

The R Spot with Iyanla

Shondaland Audio and iHeartPodcasts

Religion & Spirituality, Spirituality, Society & Culture, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Education, Relationships, Self-improvement

4.9 • 908 Ratings

🗓️ 14 June 2023

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Summary

A mother is at her wit’s end with her son, who is now lashing out at her and calling her names. Despite the caller’s best efforts to be a good mother and provide everything for her son, who she adopted and raised as her own, things in their relationship have devolved to threats of violence. Iyanla guides the caller toward letting her heart break first, and then finding a way to move forward.
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0:00.0	I am Yamla your host for this journey. I was a hopeless love a holic but just could not get my love to work.
0:11.0	Then after a series of heartbreaks and deep heartache, I finally got clear
0:17.6	about what love is and what it is not. I want to share some of what I've learned about lover holism.
0:25.4	Welcome to the R spot, a production of Shandaland audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. I used to think that one of the most precious sacred and challenging relationships was the relationship between a mother and a daughter.
0:56.0	Because so very often the mother sees and the daughter things that she doesn't like about herself and the daughter sees and the mother things that she never wants to be and she ends up being that way.
1:08.0	I mean I could tell you stories about the beauty, the power, the value, the hardships, the challenges, the
1:18.1	difficulties of the relationship between a mother and a daughter.
1:22.7	Whoa!
1:24.9	But baby, let me tell you something.
1:28.6	In my wisdom years, I have discovered that one of the most precious, fragile, and difficult
1:41.0	relationships on the planet is the relationship between a
1:46.1	mother and a son. If you want a first-class ticket to heartbreak and crazy. Take a look at the relationship
1:55.8	between the mother and the son because a man is who his mother makes him.
2:03.8	The king is the king, not because he sits in the throne,
2:07.5	but because his mother prepared him, fed him the food,
2:11.6	called in the right people, let him go, pulled him in, did all of the things
2:16.5	that prepares him to sit in the throne as the king. The mother becomes the template that a man uses in his relationships with women.
2:28.0	And if that template is solid and clear, if it's laid with loving care and concern, that man is going to have good
2:38.5	relationships with women and himself. But when they are cracks and tears and fragments in the template
2:49.1	that a mother uses to grow her son up baby is going to be rough and the challenges that a
2:58.0	mother's intentions her best intentions and her way of being is not translated with accuracy into the
3:08.2	child's experience. The mother will set up parameters and dynamics and situations that she thinks will give the child the son what he needs.
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