Diminishing Yourself In Search Of Love
The R Spot with Iyanla
Shondaland Audio and iHeartPodcasts
4.9 • 908 Ratings
🗓️ 21 June 2023
⏱️ 43 minutes
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Summary
This week, two callers reach out to Iyanla to share their situations. The first woman is in a relationship with a man who has never introduced her to any of his family, and only meets her at hotels for the weekend. Iyanla thinks there might be something suspicious there. Then, the second caller has her abusive mother living in her home as a favor. In both instances, Iyanla warns the callers that by lifting someone else up… they’re putting themselves on the bottom.
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| 0:00.0 | I amla. I've been very open about the fact that I was not always good and making my |
| 0:08.4 | relationships work. I have been divorced three times twice from the same person. In other words, I have seen a lot and failed a lot in my relationships. |
| 0:19.0 | So I am here to share with you what I learned along the way because I did take copious notes. |
| 0:26.4 | Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I-Heart Radio. When you do know, act like you don't know what you do know, you'll get so confused until you won't know. |
| 0:52.0 | Until you won't know. |
| 0:55.0 | And sometimes in relationships, |
| 0:57.8 | we love to act like we don't know what we do know. And then what we do is we try to go outside of ourselves |
| 1:08.0 | to get someone to agree that we don't know what we do know. Isn't that confusing? |
| 1:14.0 | Don't act like you don't know what you do know. |
| 1:18.0 | And don't try to get anything outside of yourself to prove either that you don't know or to validate what you do know. |
| 1:27.8 | Know what you know. |
| 1:29.6 | Just know what you know. |
| 1:31.9 | And even if you're mistaken in what you know and even if you're mistaken in what you know you're gonna learn |
| 1:36.4 | something you will learn something that's what my next caller is up against |
| 1:41.6 | acting like she doesn't know what she does know |
| 1:44.5 | and trying to get someone to validate |
| 1:46.7 | that she does know it. |
| 1:48.2 | Oh, it's so confused and just listen. |
| 1:58.0 | Greetings beloved and welcome to the R spot. What is your relationship challenge issue dilemma that we can nibble on together today. |
| 2:03.0 | Oh well it's an honor to speak with you for soul and my situation is I've been |
| 2:10.4 | dating this guy for two and a half years and last year I felt like it wasn't going anywhere. |
| 2:19.0 | I never met his children, grandchildren, or one in his family. |
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