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Sophie, I think you'd agree that boundaries were historically not one of your strong suits.

Sophie was so loving and so caring and so about always helping everybody or always at least loving

everybody that putting up boundaries felt to you, I believe, almost like inappropriate in a relationship.

I wasn't modeled any boundaries.

So my mom didn't show me how to have boundaries.

And I grew up with my mom.

So she was a single mom.

And, you know, she was addicted to her own thing.

She definitely abused weed and had her vices.

And she did the best she could to cope with having two kids, two small children at home and multiple jobs and just did her best.

And so she was coping. And part of her coping was just doing the best she could, which meant there was some dysfunctional behaviors modeled, including having zero boundaries with men, with us. She would tell me I was grounded

for something. And then one day later, it was convenient for her for me not to be grounded so that I

wasn't. So there was just no, there was no consistency ever. And so that is what I grew up

in. It's just like, it was a free for all. And as an adult, I only learned about boundaries by

coming up against boundaries. Boundaries. So, yeah. But what it looked like on the outside when I

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