Welcome to MiniSode Monday. Hope your weekend was fantabulous.

Happy to be here with you kicking off the week with something quick and actionable that you can implement right away that'll make you more magnetic and effective.

Today we're talking about loneliness, loneliness, that discrepancy between your desired level of social contact with what you actually achieve.

It's that contradiction between how we want to feel versus what we actually experience and it opens up this weird emptiness within us.

We've done a couple of shows about this with Kira, Asatrian and other folks here on the podcast as well.

We can experience loneliness even when you're surrounded by friends and colleagues all day and you go home to a spouse partner or children at night.

If loneliness is really a state of disconnection or isolation from a group or people or some sort of community,

then the increasing presence of technology should theoretically help ease the pain, right?

Think about something like Facebook. You log into the site, you got all this abundance of other people's lives humming along without you.

Complete with photos of trips, friends, gatherings, parties that you're not at.

We can just feel the inadequacy of our own social life seeping through the screen.

And the gap between what others supposedly have and our own reality can make us feel dissatisfied and even lonelier than we were before.

Of course, social media only shows you one side of someone's life. That's the side they want you to see.

Same with their stories, their marketing and their books.

In fact, the algorithm on Facebook and other social media works such that you end up being surrounded only by people with similar opinions which makes it harder for you to learn, and makes you erroneously think that most people think just like you do.

In fact, the algorithm on Facebook and other social media works such that we end up being surrounded only by people with similar opinions, which makes it harder for us to learn and makes us erroneously think that most people think just like us.

For example, if you're only engaging with people who are really liberal on Facebook,

you're only going to see those posts, which means that you're going to feel that everyone

thinks the exact same way and that those with different opinions are actually very few

and far between even if you're in the minority.

So challenge your thinking.

That's often what I do here on the Art of Charm Podcasts and in these types of mini-sode

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