Minisode Monday #54 | Treat Your Haters Like Toddlers

The Art of Charm

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Business, Health & Fitness, Education

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🗓️ 22 May 2017

⏱️ 3 minutes

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Ever get upset by rude comments on the Internet? In this Minisode Monday, we share an effective strategy for dealing with this that we learned from Jay Baer, author of Hug Your Haters: How to Embrace Complaints and Keep Your Customers. Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: You can post anything online -- videos of puppies eating birthday cake -- and someone will eventually show up to leave a hateful or hurtful comment. If you're immune to the impact of anonymous rudeness on the Internet, you're better than most of us. But if you're not, Jay Baer recommends a simple strategy: treat your haters like toddlers. Think about it: if you're enjoying yourself at a dinner party and your host's three-year-old wanders into the room and makes fun of your pants, you probably won't care. We don't tend to give toddlers much credit for having an informed opinion about anything, nor do we rely on their sense of taste. So would we get upset at a toddler and try to "set them straight" in such a situation? Next time someone brings you down on purpose, tries to sabotage you, or makes you feel small in some way, just think of that hater as a toddler -- and treat him or her accordingly. To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here! Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response or write to Jordan directly: [email protected] (he actually reads everything)! To truly thrive in all areas of your life, you can't ignore the importance of good health. Try Organifi Green Juice for 20% off using code "charm" when checking out at organifi.com! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Listen to The Art of Charm, All of the Above, and hundreds of your favorite podcasts with the free PodcastOne app (on iOS and Android) here! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/minisode-monday-54-treat-your-haters-like-toddlers/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

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0:00.0	Hey, Jordan Harbinger here. Welcome to MiniSode Monday. I'm happy to be here with you.
0:04.2	Kicking off the week with something quick and actionable that you can implement right away
0:08.2	that'll make you more magnetic and effective. Today, we're taking a page from Jay Bears book
0:13.0	and we're going to teach you how to treat your haters like toddlers. I've noticed a lot of people
0:16.9	get worked up about what other people think of them and what they think about their work. And I'm
0:20.8	one of those people. Trust me, I get it. And this mostly happens with creatives, with makers,
0:25.2	and people who put their work out there for others, especially online. But it also happens to
0:29.9	the rest of us pretty much no matter what industry or line of work we are in. So we're having a
0:34.7	great day. We just posted something online. We uploaded a piece of our work, returned in a report
0:39.2	or we even went and did something new with our friggin hair for God's sake. And we get a nasty
0:44.3	comment. It might be a comment on video or on Facebook. It might be something in our email inbox.
0:49.6	It might even be something that someone says to us that's well meaning, but just comes out of left
0:54.3	field and kind of messes with our mojo. So we end up getting upset. We dwell on it and sometimes
0:59.1	this stuff can be a real day runner. I'm no exception to this. Like I said, I wish I were immune
1:03.6	to this stuff as well. But I'm not at least not all the time. But here's the thing. Our critics,
1:09.5	and I mean the uninformed ones, the nasty ones, the ones that are just out for themselves and are not
1:14.5	out to actually make us better. They're toddlers. That's right. They're toddlers. Most people don't
1:20.6	get upset when a six year old says something to them that might be considered a bit rude in polite
1:25.6	company. And this is because most sane people don't believe that toddlers have a great concept of
1:31.4	Savoia fair, nor do we really rely on their sense of taste for very much here. Additionally,
1:37.0	getting upset at a toddler and setting them straight. It's not going to do much good. And no one with
1:41.6	two brain cells to rub together would even try. So next time someone brings you down on purpose or
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