Hey Jordan Harbinger here from the Art of Charm. Welcome to Miniso Monday. I'm happy to be here with you kicking off the week with something quick and actionable that you can implement right away that I'll make you more magnetic and effective.

Now a few months ago I was in NYC staying with my friend who's got an amazing place right next to Central Park. These homes are super amazing. Each one is bigger than my freaking house here in California.

And I got on the elevator, of course his own elevator, one morning that week. And an older man he got in with me and I'd seen him before. Older guy dressed like he's going hiking every day for his day on the town.

He's got books under his arm, probably about to read in the park and enjoy the day. But I noticed something. Morty, that was his name. He was always grumpy and shut off. And it took me a lot of work to get this guy to open up. I'm not even sure why I bothered frankly. But it was almost like some kind of community service.

I wondered though, how did he get this way? Why and how do young folks full of life and full of optimism like you and I end up grumpy old carmogens.

And after a little research and a lot of observation, I came to the conclusion that every day we change just a little bit.

We end up making good choices that make us better, poor choices that make us worse, reactions to events that improve who we are.

Responses to situations that degrade us. We put effort into relationships and surround ourselves with love or we let them wither and we find ourselves lonely one day.

And this stuff just does not happen overnight. We're gradually laying the groundwork intentionally or unintentionally for who we will become later in life.

How do you stack up to the you of 10 years ago? Sure, you might have been younger and let's admit it better looking back then. But how much different are you and where do you see the differences?

Are you more or less generous with your time and money? Are you more confident? Are you more isolated? Are you selfish? How's your mood when you wake up? Are you happier? Are you more stable? Or are you less of both?

We don't become more to you overnight. We become more to you over time.

What kind of choices are you making? Are you making deposits to your relationships or are you constantly on borrowed credit?

How do you react when things don't go your way? Do you blame others? Do you blame yourself?

We're always working towards something either through effort or by default. We're always becoming something. Are we making choices to become what we want?

Or are we becoming more to you?

For more introspection and more strategies and tactics you can apply to your everyday life to become what you want to become.

Highly recommend checking out the Art of Charm Challenge. Theartofcharm.com slash challenge or text the word charmed to 3-3-4-4.

We're taking you step by step to help you move forward. We've got a great supportive Facebook group with me and AJ in there as your coaches,

along with thousands of other AOC family doing the challenge. And we're going to help you create more productive personal and business relationships

and help you connect with others in a way that moves you forward. That's theartofcharm.com slash challenge.

All right everybody, have a great week.

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