All right, welcome to Miniso Monday. I'm happy to be here with you kicking the week off with something quick and actionable that you can implement right away.

This will make you more magnetic and effective. That's how I roll.

And today, I want to tell you a little story. I was talking to a friend of mine and she was complaining about someone she worked with. This person was always arriving late and the boss would put the work on her.

Her interactions with this person were increasingly poor because she ended up doing a lot of the other person's work because they couldn't show up on time.

These two ladies were friends. This is kind of a crazy circle. There's this whole work thing stressing out their personal thing. This got me thinking and you'll know by now when I do that, it outcomes the microphone.

So I tossed this idea around for a while and I realized that the roles we play in our relationships and at work directly affect the nature of those relationships themselves.

In other words, since my friend was in many ways somewhat complicit in the perpetual tardiness of her colleague and also suffered consequences as a result, the only person who could affect both of those dynamics was either her or her friend.

So now we all know it's pretty much impossible to change another person once they're out of diapers. So we're left with one option. If you change the role that you play in your relationships, both at work and at home, you'll start to see the nature of those relationships themselves begin to change.

So if you're constantly fighting with your partner, change your role. Don't try to change them. Change your reaction to them. Even if they're totally in the wrong, try to do this and see what happens.

I'm not recommending you become an emotional punching bag for your friends and family, certainly not. But I think a lot of us tend to look outside at what other people are doing and the roles they play in our lives and the results that come out of it.

And I'm saying when we do that, we're looking at the variable. It's like going outside without a jacket and blaming the weather for being too cold.

But when we change our role, we take control, we accept our own actions and thereby our own consequences and our own outcomes.

Because then and only then, can we begin to change those outcomes. So if you want to change your role in your personal and professional relationships, I highly recommend the art of charm challenge, the artofcharm.com slash challenge.

We'll give you some practical actionable exercises each week to help keep you social and mindful and make sure you're playing the right role both at home and at work with those around you.

You can also text charmed to 3 3 4 4 4 in the US or you can go to the artofcharm.com slash challenge to get rocking on that.

Now here's producer Jason with a recap of the shows from last week.

Thank you Jordan. So in case you missed it last week, we spoke to Mark Manson about his book, the subtle art of not giving a f***.

Accounter intuitive approach to living a good life. It's a saucy episode. So definitely don't be blast in this one when you roll in past some kids or old ladies.

Jordan and Mark talk about how conventional life advice like positive, happy self-help stuff that's on the market actually fixates you on what you lack and possibly makes you pretty unhappy.

Other topics include stopping the vicious cycle of comparing yourself to others and cultivating a greater understanding of yourself, which can lead to a greater understanding of others.

This is an episode chock full of fantastic and practical advice. We also spoke with Sergio Popovic, author of Blueprint for Revolution.

Sergio was one of the organizers against Slobodan Milosevic and Serbia back in the 90s. They talk about how revolutions and business have a lot in common when it comes to things like branding and logos.

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