Hi, my name's Andy, and welcome to Radio Head Space and a Monday morning.

I don't know if your parents or whoever looked after you as a child ever asked you when you were young what you wanted to be.

I was thinking back the other day I was chatting to my sister and I was thinking back to those days

and sitting around the table with my parents as a kid and them asking me kind of

what I wanted to be and it was a tricky time in our household there was a lot of tension

between our parents it was just before they got divorced.

And I remember kind of at the time, I was constantly just trying to kind of make them laugh to sort of ease the

pressure in their house, you know.

So the first answer I came out with was I was going to be a priest because I was the most unlikely candidate to be a priest ever and I think I knew it would make them laugh.

I laughed and they said no but seriously like what are you going to be? And I said, maybe a clown.

Again, because I thought it was a ridiculous thing to say. Turns out, you know, I went on to become a monk and to join the circus, so who knows?

I sometimes wonder how much of life we decide and we choose ourselves and how much of life is kind of just happening, but it requires us to take a first step, to be willing to try things that maybe feel outside of our comfort zone, that maybe scare us in some way maybe we're worried about

being I don't know feeling humiliated or making a fool of ourselves.

Someone asked me a few days ago they said so if I'm going to live a life an extraordinary life you know what do I need to do was

so I somehow had the answer I just have a very varied resume it's not an extraordinary life it's just a

different set of things.

And they said, yeah, but you know, what's the thing that's kind of helped you the most in making those decisions in life?

And as I thought about it, it was actually retrospectively after the conversation

I thought actually it is that a willingness to a willingness to fail. I don't even

really relate to the idea of the word fail because I don't really think of that as life.

Life just unfolds and some things we like the results of, some things we don't like the results of.

People may interpret that as success and failure and everything else but that's really just the

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