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Hi, this is Janet Landsbury.

Welcome to Unruffled.

Today I'm going to be consulting with a parent who reached out to me via email.

Her issue is that her daughter keeps having what I would refer to as meltdowns at bedtime.

The parent is trying to figure out what she's doing wrong.

She feels bad about this.

And she refers to them as tantrums.

There are people who talk about distinguishing tantrums and meltdowns and that there would

be a different approach to each.

In my experience, there's a lot of blend.

And my approach would be more specific to the situation than to trying to decide if

something was a tantrum or a meltdown.

But in this case, I consider these meltdowns.

And in all cases, my general approach would be to hold limits and trust that the feelings

need to be expressed.

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